One of the most fascinating and liberating things I have learned over the years through all my studies and experiences is that events do NOT create our experiences. There are many ways in which we can justify our belief that events do create our experiences, however, this theory is easily disproved. Let’s explore both sides of this argument for a moment.
Let’s use the economic crash in the United States that took place in 2008 for this example. For many people, possibly even yourself, this event led to devastation and destruction of their lives in many ways. When they think of that event they refer to it as negative or bad. It was the catalyst that changed many great aspects of their life. Therefore, they have determined that the event was negative because they had a negative experience.
Now, let’s look at the other side of this argument. For many, the economic crash of 2008 was a major point of transition into new and exciting things. For me, it was the push I needed to step out on my own into the world of entrepreneurship. It led me through a life changing process of self-discovery and progress. I believe this event was the catalyst to opening up my life to the greatness I had within me. I certainly wouldn’t be where I am today had this event not taken place. Therefore, like many others who received great things from this event, I have determined the event to be positive because I had a positive experience with it.
Now that we have explored both sides of this argument, let’s examine the theory that events do not create our experiences. If they did, we would all have the same experience with them. The reason we all have different experiences with events is because of how we personally relate to the events. You see, events are neutral. They only become “positive” or “negative” when you give them meaning. In other words, it’s all dependent on your relationship to it. It’s a personal relationship defined by your belief systems and how you perceive the event. Events trigger internal responses or associations related to the event which leads to your experiences.
The reason this is such a liberating understanding of how our minds work in relationship to life’s events is when you understand this concept you gain control over your experiences. Is there an event going on in your life that is causing you great struggles or difficulties? Many of your struggles can be dissolved by taking a deep look at why it feels so negative and examining your relationship to it. This is not always easy, but it is the only way to change your experience with things. Sometimes this can happen naturally such as when you “sleep on it” and awaken with a new perception or acceptance. But either way, this is the factor that changes our experiences in life.
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